Do we need to talk?

I know how hard it can be for friends. Does he want to talk about it? Should I just talk about the weather? Crack a joke?

Everybody responds differently. Everyone has different needs. Some cancer patients positively thrive from the attention they get from well-meaning people. For others, it’s a constant reminder of what they’re going through.

And what might work for you one day, may not work the next.

I appreciate and am grateful for the people that do reach out, and I know it is always well-intentioned.

Saying that I find that most days, I don’t want to dwell on it. I save that for the days when I’ll see the doctor. If I have to keep talking about it, I can’t look past it, and it makes it harder to get on with life.

So, yes, I appreciate how hard it is for friends and family. Knowing what to say and when to say it. There’s no right time or wrong time – it’s a bloody minefield.